One Swainky Couple: Effective Habits of Happy People

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

Effective Habits of Happy People

6 Effective Habits of Happy People

Overall, I'd say that I am a pretty positive person and consider myself happy and upbeat in all areas of life. My relationship with the Lord is the number one factor in creating this happiness because He is the source of all joy. Aside from my spiritual life, there are a few things that I know help to assist in my happiness (and Brandon's too) and I really feel like they're effective habits that everyone can employ.

On a separate note, most of my outfit is currently on sale as a part of the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale.  This top is less than $50 and my jeans are the comfiest pair I've ever owned. I included all of that information at the bottom for you to shop. 

1. Get Plenty of Rest and Eat Right

A somewhat obvious factor to happiness is rest. Brandon and I laugh because I think my body may require more sleep than the average person. At minimum, I need seven hours but I am happiest with a solid eight hours of sleep. Anyone else with me on this? On the days where I've missed out on sleep, it takes a huge toll on those around me and my activities. We all know that science backs up the need for rest, so why do we cheat ourselves out of it? It should be a priority, not something that slips away from us. 

Additionally, eating right helps my happiness level. Brandon and I are not perfect in this area; in fact, we've struggled continually through the summer. Some weeks will be amazing: we cook at home, eat tons of vegetables, minimize unhealthy foods, etc. Then, the next week could be terrible: fast food, dessert, get the picture. This back and forth juggle causes us to feel worse, especially when we slip. For us, eating at home is a priority right now because we know that we eat better foods this way, thus contributing to a happier home and lifestyle. 

2. Prioritize a Passion Project or Find a New Hobby

I'm a big believer in having hobbies or interests outside of work (hints this blog). You have to find things that peak your interest, challenge your mind, or stimulate you away from the office. My creative outlet is this blog and it's definitely become my passion project. I dedicate time and energy on a daily basis and in return, it increases my happiness. Find something that does the same for you, even if it's on a small scale. Maybe you want to take up a sport, finally read that new book, volunteer for your favorite charity, or even create something that's meaningful to you. Whatever it is, you'll be happy that you have a hobby or interest other than your daily job. 

3. Don't Feel Bad About Netflix

Brandon and I don't spend tons of time watching TV. However, with that being said, we fully believe that having a Netflix show (or any show) is fun and even important! We are currently watching Game of Thrones (on season 4) and I love that this is something we can do together as a way to unwind in the evenings. Although the show is serious, it makes us happy to watch it! Don't be afraid of the simple joys in life like a new episode of your favorite show. We love looking forward to a new episode, watching it over a home cooked meal. My advice is to embrace a show with your significant other as a happy activity that you can both partake in and talk about. 

4. Exercise!

Most people know that exercising on a regular basis is a necessity and a huge thing for your body. I've had an on again, off again relationship with exercise but I definitely recognize that I'm happier when I'm consistently doing some form of physical activity. I used to dance growing up and this was my main form of exercise. When I got to college, I was so worried about gaining the "freshman 15" that I went to the gym regularly, focusing on cardio. In grad school, I barely had time to exercise and I started letting it slip. This habit continued on with my first teaching job until I finally realized that my lack of exercise was hurting my mental state and wellbeing. Fast forward to the present: I'm currently doing Orange Theory Fitness and cannot rave enough about it. I'd love to do a whole separate post on the benefits if anyone is interested or wants to know more (just leave me a comment if you'd like this sort of post). Jumping back onto the exercise wagon has completely confirmed that I need it. Although I may hate it at times, I know that I feel better, look better, and act better when I consistently go to my class. 

5. Foster Relationships

Relationships are a key ingredient to happiness. Personally, I feel happiest when I'm in contact with the important people in my life. My husband, my family members, and a few close friends are my circle of trust. If I'm out of touch with these people, something just feels wrong in my life. It's so important to put the time and effort into growing relationships and making others feel valued and important. When you give back to someone else, you're making yourself happier in the process. Don't forget to take time and have a meal with your mom, give your sibling a phone call, or shop with a girlfriend. It's easy to get sucked into the busyness of life and put friendships on the back burner. With that being said, it's up to you to make a conscious effort and prioritize your meaningful relationships. 

6. Allow for "Me Time"

Even from the time I was a little girl, I've been independent and am always okay with an afternoon by myself or a little "me time". I cherish this time because I know that it allows me to revitalize myself and focus on my mental state. "Me time" can look different for everyone. Mine usually involves a hot bath, reading, maybe even a little pampering like painting my nails or putting on a face mask. Brandon's time looks very different. He may want to go out to a gun range and practice shooting, or simply take Tara outside and practice retrieving birds. Whatever it looks like for you, sometimes it can be embarrassing to ask your spouse for a little alone time. I'll admit that Brandon and I are still at the point where we want to be with each other in every moment possible, but there's no shame in needing some space or time to yourself. I always notice that after my time, I'm more appreciative and happier when we come back together.

On Katherine: Nordstrom sweater, AG jeans, Steve Madden shoes, Michele watch, Kendra Scott earrings, old hat (similar here).


  1. I think having a passion project/hobby where you can be creative is SO important!! Also I wanted to snatch up this sweater during the sale--SO CUTE!

    Rosy Outlook

    1. Agreed!! Isn't it fun?! At first I almost didn't try it, but the color sucked me in. It's a really cute fit!

  2. Such a cute look! I definitely agree with these tips. I am the same way, I need more sleep than the average person. I really have to have 8 to function right. Starting my blog has definitely give me more happiness. I usually would have a project going on, but having a long-term project has been so rewarding and fulfilling.

  3. Great advice and cute look lady! I've been trying to work on this myself lately as I've been sick the last TWO weeks. Everything unfortunately has come to a big hault so I'm trying to focus on things I can control while still being happy like SLEEP and eating healthy!! I can't wait to get back into blogging and working out again. Those are my two sources of happiness!

    1. I'm so sorry you've been sick! Rest really is the best medicine. Looking forward to having you back! :)

  4. Awesome tips! I need a full 8 hours of sleep too, and exercise is so important. Elle Woods said it best that exercise gives you endorphins <3
    Green Fashionista

  5. I love all of this! I think eating right is so important, also finding time for yourself with whatever you want to do, even if it is watching Netflix or even a hobby.

    Effortlessly Sophisticated

  6. Healthy eating is often discarded when it comes to being happy but it's so necessary.


    Tamara -

  7. Wonderful hat <3 Thanks for the post :)

  8. You look so cute in this outfit! I grabbed that same pink sweater, and I am glad I did because it sold out pretty quickly. These are great tips for staying happy. I definitely think having a hobby is an important thing to stay happy.
    xo, Whitney and Blaire
    Peaches In A Pod

  9. I love this and you look so cute! I need those velvet flats!

    <3 Shannon 
    Upbeat Soles

  10. Perfect look, and this shoes <3

  11. Exercising and 'me time' are definitely my favorite ways of bringing happiness in my life! Of course, good relationships are also good for keeping my heart happy :) And lastly, finding joy in simple things every day (like a sunset, for example) :) xo

    Sabina | I've Got Sunshine

    1. Love that! So important to notice the little things in life.

  12. loving that top! so fun and cute for summer!

    1. Thanks so much Kelsey!! Great to transition into fall as well!

  13. Love these 6 tips. Relationships and finding the balance of me time with other things are key for me, but like you said my spiritual life definitely makes the most difference.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  14. Yes to all of these! Thank you for sharing this - it made me reflect on my personal habits too!

    Jessica |

  15. Fantastic photos, you both look amazing. I love the Ann Taylor brand and I so wish it were here in London. I think the bag is really cute and the fact it can straight from the maker is really cool xx